You Are The Master Of Your Life
As I see myself today, it comes as a surprise that my life began being discouraged to speak publicly and today it has become a part of me that touches the most lives. I am a public speaker in many forums for motivation, self-worth and values.
I was a small yet loud girl with one ‘drawback’ in the eyes of my teacher- I had a slight lisp. They told me that I’ll never be on the elocution stage because I spoke too fast and wasn’t as clear as the others. People made me feel smaller, I never started off afraid that was taught to fear…. to fear opinions, to fear crowds, to fear to be different. I was taught silence.
Listening To Your Voice
I still have my lisp, it belongs to me and gives me a personal style and has allowed me to create value in what I say and not only how I say it. Conversations that touch a chord and allow people to resonate come from a place of truth and this was a skill I innately possessed. By the time I was in grade 9, I had found my calling to help others and find their voice. It was constantly ingrained in me as a child that I am a healer and it is my duty to help people up from the quicksand of sorrow.
My calling has become my job, which is to ensure that people find their journey, they navigate through that noise and chaos of life, the one road where it all makes sense, the one road where all their path fold and converge into their destiny.
I do see people get lost and mostly because they forget who they are by trying to fulfil their duties. The keynote is - I am “supposed” to do this or that inadvertently to make you forget the most important thing, which is ‘what you are supposed to do for yourself.’
Imagine that you are the Managing Director of your life, then isn’t your duty towards yourself to make it a success in all these spheres:
Being emotionally uplifted
Excited about life
Enjoying personal relationships
Being healthy
At the helm of your profession
And most of all, being comfortable in your own skin.
The only ‘SUPPOSED to’ notion that you should own is to ‘make yourself happy.’
The days that you fall into the pit of unhappiness, try to investigate what it is that makes you unhappy. What is bogging you down? What is holding you back? What is killing your spirit?
And then think about, what are those suppositions that keep you in the cycle?
What are the suppositions that hold you true to your sadness?
And how much do you really need to fuel it?
OVERCOMING CIRCUMSTANCE
All of us have overcome adversity. We’ve overcome grief; we’ve overcome suffering, loss. We have an unconquerable spirit…
Move the ‘supposed’ situation to the new ‘proposed’ life. Look at that, build the picture see yourself in it.
Remember that life is not a simple trajectory of point A to B, but many variations that intercept between the points A to B, but your vision needs to be focused on B.
I see people being stuck. So often you hear how everyone has tried various things but somehow life is not working for them.
What they say is true, they have TRIED it, but trying doesn’t bring about permanent change.
For real change, one cannot just flirt with the idea of change, but you need focus and a bull’s eye intention on the very thing you need to change.
BELIEF IN SELF
I knew despite my father telling me I needed to be a banker, or my friends telling me that psychology is for every ‘North American Housewife’ or my teachers telling me that I cannot speak on stage etc. … That I have something to say, that I have in me a very special skill that can move people towards their excellence, and towards their happiness.
THINGS TO REMEMBER
Remember that you are not alone, remember that even when you are feeling beaten by life that all this anguish is only to chisel your character and pave your path to your goal. Even if you can’t see through the smog right now, believe that nothing is in waste and that all these lessons build you.
Believe me, when I say, I struggled, I struggled to find my voice, I struggled to let go of the fear. Most people who know me as an adult find me fearless and brave.
If the world didn’t make me feel small and try to silence me, would I have found strength in my words?
Step over the hate and rejection and be your own voice and brand marketer. See if the bad reviews are constructive, then take them into consideration. Sometimes there are flaws which we tend to overlook. But, if the reviews are just spiteful, then forget it and move on.
Unbeknown to yourself, you are the ultimate alchemist.
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