Conversations That Matter!
We have conversations all the time and sometimes no hour passes without a conversation. We also have conversations about conversations, before the conversations and after the conversations. We think about conversations. Some conversations are pivotal, life changing. Majority of the difficult and critical decisions are also taken over a discussion. We remember some conversations for life.
They are quite an important part of our life. We feel good about some of the conversations whereas some of these do not go well.
Chemical Reactions -
Working behind the scene are chemical reactions. Our conversations trigger generation of different types of hormones depending upon how they are perceived by us. For simplicity, let us focus on two hormones that affect us in a big way-
So, the conversations where we feel good, result in more of oxytocin and in the opposite case more of cortisol. Cortisol shuts down the thinking capability of our brains and initiates defensive and protection mechanisms. It takes people away from agreements or finding common ground. It makes people want to avoid or run away.
Understanding Conversations -
So, what do we want? We want more oxytocin and less of cortisol. Why? Because, that keeps people open to discussions, makes them feel safe and considerate.
So, let us talk about the few factors that can lead to generation of cortisol.
Trust me, you want more oxytocin, as it is the one that makes people feel safe and open to ideas. With oxytocin, we have a good chance to have fruitful conversations.
Action Time-
So, what can you do to generate more Oxytocin? We need to focus on the other person, which is an important part of having a great and fruitful conversation. It is important to understand the other person irrespective of whether it is a personal conversation or a professional conversation. You can do the following to boost oxytocin-
Wishing you great conversations!!
