In our relentless pursuit of an enhanced life, improved financial status, and overall well-being, we often find ourselves with the fractures emerging within our closest relationships. Regrettably, the pursuit of materially-better quality of life has unintentionally widened the emotional gap between family and friends. What was once a source of solace and support now bears strain, and the once unbreakable, deep-rooted connections are now displaying signs of wear and tear.
In modern society, the ability to engage in personal conversations seems to be dwindling, and the collapse of traditional family structures plays a significant role in exacerbating this phenomenon.
Firstly, technological advancements have reshaped the way we communicate, offering a plethora of convenient digital platforms for interaction. While these tools provide instant connectivity, they often prioritise brevity and superficiality over depth and authenticity. Social media, for instance, encourages brief exchanges and curated self-presentations, fostering a culture of shallow engagement rather than meaningful dialogue.
Moreover, the erosion of traditional family structures, such as the transition from joint to nuclear families, has contributed to a decline in interpersonal skills and a reliance on external sources for emotional support. Therapists and counsellors now serve as our confidants, but it prompts us to question the cost. We are investing hard-earned rupees for someone to listen to our struggles, essentially substituting the support that our extended family once effortlessly provided.
The irony is glaring – within the confines of our family, where the roots of our emotional strength should lie, we are left feeling isolated. Crisis and unfortunate incidents strike, and instead of finding solace in the warm embrace of family, we seek external help and validation about our emotions. The once-close family ties wither, struggling to withstand the storms that life throws our way, all because of the shift to smaller family structures.
The joint family system, historically the basis of our social fabric, created a nurturing environment where multiple generations coexisted, fostering communal responsibility and shared values. The shift from Indian joint families to nuclear families has seen a gradual erosion of robust family bonding and support systems, once integral to societal fabric. The pursuit of modernity, often synonymous with 'independence' and 'freedom,' has led many to view the move towards nuclear families as a symbol of can-do-everything. However, the terrible consequence of this societal shift seems to be the growing prevalence of profound loneliness and unhappiness. In the quest for autonomy, individuals unwittingly find themselves isolated, detached from the communal strength that joint families historically provided.
The family, as a fundamental unit of society, plays a pivotal role in shaping the values and ethics of its members. The dilution of joint family ties results in a loss of the rich cultural and moral heritage that is transmitted through generations. As family bonds weaken, individuals may experience a diminished sense of identity and cultural continuity.
The transition from joint to nuclear families not only shapes societal context but also profoundly influences individuals at a personal level. Children, in particular, are experiencing a disconnect from the camaraderie once inherent in extended family structures, making it challenging, even to relate to their cousins as previous generations did. This lack of shared experiences hampers the development of meaningful relationships, resulting in a solitary journey through life's complexities. Moreover, the fading usage of the mother tongue in many urban households further accentuates the cultural and linguistic gaps, contributing to a sense of isolation and a reliance on external sources for emotional support that traditionally stemmed from familial bonds.
Parents of urban young children increasingly find themselves scheduling play-dates to ensure social interactions, a trend influenced by the paradox of affluence. Despite having access to an abundance of communication gadgets, the correlation between increasing wealth and diminishing social connectedness is evident. The irony lies in the fact that, as our technological resources grow, our genuine human-to-human interactions seem to dwindle. This shift is especially pronounced in the younger generation, where the proliferation of digital devices coincides with a decline in the utilisation of essential motor skills. As a consequence, the social fabric is strained, and the ability to forge authentic human-to-human interpersonal rapport is becoming an existential crisis.
Furthermore, the elderly, traditionally the custodians of family wisdom, are not immune to this transformation. Ensnared by the digital world, they find themselves paradoxically silent, engrossed in cellphones rather than engaging in intergenerational dialogue. But then, who will they talk to, when almost everyone else is glued to their handsets? With the decline of this support structure, the senior citizens may find themselves grappling with increased stress, isolation, and a weakened sense of belonging. The growing distance between generations becomes palpable, and instead of hearts growing fonder, they become casualties of an emotional disconnection that undermines the fabric of familial bonds.
In this relentless pursuit of individual success and personal growth, people often fail to recognise the invaluable role that a close-knit family plays in their emotional and social health. The support system that should be the bedrock of their resilience is eroding, prompting individuals to question whether the price paid for progress is worth the toll on relationships. True wealth lies not just in financial prosperity but in the richness of relationships, in the bonds that withstand the trials of life, and in the enduring strength of a united family.
Srinath Sridharan is a policy researcher & corporate advisor
Kalyani Srinath is a food and nutrition professional