My boss And Me Had Been Friendly. But Now, He Is Making Romantic Approach Which I Want To Resist Before It Gets Too Serious. Friend Zoning Him May Even End Up Hurting My Career Or A Nice Frie

I request you to ask this question to yourself- what do you want to do about it? It’s a free world and you have the free will to act the way you want to. There are 2 ways to look at this: ONE- if you want to fan his advances, be sure to know the consequences of it. TWO- if you want to decline his advances and just stay friendly, so be it. Communicate this to him in as many words. The clinchers here are- your independent will/desire & the values you run your life with. In line with them, take action. You are an adult and you know what to do.

Being friendly with boss is good, as it helps in increased productivity, but their should be a distance maintained, which you must have crossed, due to which you guys landed up in this situation. Anyhow, he's your boss and you can't boycott him, rather learn to say NO in a way which doesn't hurts him. Be friendly, be assertive. There has to be distance always maintained between a subordinate and a boss, which should not go any further (until mutually decided to take it further). Not saying NO at this stage may actually end up ruining either your or his career.

Professionally, navigating this situation will be tricky. To start with, you already moved from the ‘Professional Zone’ to the ‘Friend Zone’ and now your boss is further pushing it into the ‘Romantic zone’. You will need to tread backwards the same route and reach closer to the ‘Professional Zone’. For that you will have to keep the professional- friend ratio to 4:1. Deliberate interactions to be more professional, yet not completely doing away with all friendly conversations. The pitfall of this will be your increased accountability work wise to your boss and doing away with any friendly favours that you enjoyed when in ‘Friend zone’. Focus on scaling your work output, that’s simpler, relationships are complicated. Find friendships outside workspace, they come with less baggage and are uncompounded.

The easiest decision is to change the job and automatically leave the battlefield, but this shouldn’t be the reason to run to extremes. It is necessary to hang out the white flag only when the situation is really unmanageable.You can take help of some supervisor over your boss by asking him to change your reporting from your existing boss.Try to seldom have communication with your boss post to it and try your level best to maintain your dignity and dignity of your official duties & responsibilities. But remember, your request can lead to unpredictable and undesirable consequences. Before you ask for help, make sure you are not the instigator of the issue.