Why Do You Hesitate Putting Yourself First?
Work on areas that are hindering your journey to be the best you can be, and stop self-destructive habits like less rest, sleep, excess alcohol, non-nurturing foods (nutrient-low), smoking, no exercise, and watch yourself get calmer, better version of you. All you have to do is, like yourself more, and put yourself first
I met an old school friend of mine after a couple of years, and we sat discussing our lives, our health status (comes up inevitably, given what I do) and what we should do versus what we are doing. She runs an international jewelry design business and is very successful and has high profile clients, including top Bollywood actresses. It’s a creative field, the hours are erratic because she also works US timings to respond to client queries. In short, she’s busy as hell. And then she asked me, “So, what do you do? Do you exercise every day?” I gave her the gist: yoga 3-4 days a week, running 2-3 days a week, pranayama of 25 min every day. She sat up. Stared at me and said, “Rachna, are you telling me you have this kind of time to spare? One-and-a-half hour every day??” I smiled and said, “No, I make the time. If I’m not healthy, how will I do my job well?”
And that day, as I walked out of her beautiful living room, I realised, when people don’t put themselves first, all the problems begin, whether physical or emotional. By the time I had reached my car, I had already got a message from her saying she was motivated to do the same, and that made me happy.
Self-nurturing is an act where we look after our own needs, so that we are able and healthy to look after other people’s needs if they need us. It’s different from self-indulgence and being selfish. Self-nurturing actually promotes selflessness, because an emotionally and physically-able person is better equipped at helping others than a tired, messed up, physically unfit one. Self-nurturing also does two beautiful things: it reduces risk of lifestyle diseases and makes your decision making clear, strong and precise, making way for a better career or rise to the top.
So what are the simple ways we can self-nurture for a better, more energetic, healthier version of us? Here are some tips:
Pay attention to yourself. Stand in front of the mirror and critically examine yourself. Your face and body will give you clues to work on. Puffed up face? Start sleeping on time/reduce alcohol. Belly showing? You’re neglecting exercise. Pigmented/uneven skin? Liver is not releasing toxins properly so up the raw salads. Shabby dresser? Start taking pride in what you wear, how you look. It automatically switches on the happy hormones.
Spend time with yourself. To self-nurture, you’ve got to like your own company first. Get to know you, by spending time with you. Absolutely alone. Go to a park with your favourite snack and headphones, watch the sunset, listen to music and munch. No phone calls, no messaging, no emails. Just you, the sunset, the music and the greenery. When you do this a few times, you’ll start cherishing this time. It will invigorate your mind, body and soul and make you happier. If you’re happier, people around you will be happier, as happiness is infectious.
Get a hobby. All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. Start a reading club, join an art/yoga/badminton/music/cooking class, ensure it’s a group activity and you interact with people outside your work and social circle – people from different backgrounds, age groups. Group activities open up our creative centres, and interacting with younger, vibrant people from other professions or backgrounds helps us get more exposure and ideas. These make us emotionally satisfied and mentally sharper at work and relationships.
Respect your brain. Your brain is your strongest weapon. Respecting it means giving it what it needs to keep itself nourished: sleep, rest, nutrient-dense foods, exercise. All these keep it strong and memory sharp.
Work on areas that are hindering your journey to be the best you can be, and stop self-destructive habits like less rest, sleep, excess alcohol, non-nurturing foods (nutrient-low), smoking, no exercise, and watch yourself get calmer, better version of you. All you have to do is, like yourself more, and put yourself first.
Go on. It’s worth it!
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